Thursday, November 17, 2005

His & Hers

This may be somewhat of an odd topic to discuss on a blog, but I'm doing it anyway.

Apparently your life goes through some pretty big changes when you hit your 20's. You know the steps...dating > engagement > marriage.....followed later by kids.

Then there's me.

Rapidly approaching my 24th birthday, I'm not dating anyone so clearly the rest of the steps won't be happening in the immediate future.

This is by no means a 'feel sorry for me' post. Because I do NOT want that. But you know what's crazy to me? The alarming rate at which your circle of friends disappears.

The older you get, the less single friends you have. I realize I'm only 23, but I'm already starting to see the change that comes with the passing of time.

And you know what all that has taught me?

I better find myself a damn good wife. Seriously.

Quality friends are essential to have (especially for me), and I believe that a lot of the people I'm friends with now will remain close to me for the rest of my life.

But they get engaged. They get married. They have kids. Their lives continue, regardless of where you or I are at.

This leaves me and....one girl. Who has yet to be identified.

One girl that I'll spend the rest of my life with.

The one girl with whom I'll open checking accounts, take vacations, buy a house, make Thanksgiving dinner, fall asleep and wake up next to.

The one girl with whom I'll GET-IT-ON. And then have kids. And raise those little monsters till they're 18 and out of the house. And then it'll be back to me and the one girl.

The one girl I'll come home to after a shitty day. The one girl whose shoulder I'll cry on many years from now when my parents die. And the one girl who will cry on my shoulder when hers die.

The one girl I will kiss every New Years eve and spend every Valentine's Day with.

The one girl with whom I will make every big decision as long as I live.

The one girl who will continually challenge me spiritually, intellectually, emotionally, and creatively.

There are approximately 3 billion members of the female gender.

And I have to find that one girl.

15 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've never looked at it like that before...the whole relationship thing. That was a really interesting approach to what that "one relationship" will be....and in an odd way it was really touching. Thanks for the perspective. :-)

November 18, 2005 9:06 AM  
Blogger isaiah said...

drew, if i was a girl i'd snuggle with you. you are so romantic!

November 18, 2005 10:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That was quite an entry! We don't know each other.....I just stumbled upon your blog in a very indirect, round about way. Your sincerity and honesty is amazing...more people should be so raw with emotions. Today's entry was very sweet...sometimes we girls forget that guys can be romantic and have the same thoughts/desires as we do. I hope you have a great day....and thanks for letting us strangers get to know a piece of you. :-)

November 18, 2005 2:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Drew,
What an amazing young man you have become. Oh how I wish that one girl was my daughter. Any mother would be proud to call you "son."

November 18, 2005 4:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a question and I was hoping to get an answer or two from some of you guys.

My wife has two children from a previous marriage. Her twelve-year-old son lives with her ex-husband and her six-year-old daughter lives with us. A few weeks ago, the ex-husband was in our area and we offered to let him spend the night at our place. I was uncomfortable with it, but my wife thought I was being silly. Now, the ex has invited himself and my wifes son to spend the night next weekend. My wife said that I'm being childish for not wanting him staying in our house. Am I wrong, or is this situation a bit weird.

November 18, 2005 9:52 PM  
Anonymous Chelsea Whiting said...

So you and I have never met... I've commented on your blogs a few times...
Just an FYI - there are girls out there that are looking for exactly what your description says. We're looking HARD for guys like you. Where are you hiding? Why haven't we met? =)

November 19, 2005 5:34 PM  
Blogger tory dolan said...

after reading some of the responses to your post, i wasn't sure how to respond...

but i'll say this... you'll find her...
it may take some searching, or she may fall in your lap... but you'll find her...

November 19, 2005 10:10 PM  
Anonymous fe said...

Drew...
I thought your post was extremely endearing and touching. Hang in there kid....I'm praying for you. I have NOT a doubt in my mind that you will find that special one girl. You deserve that. Trust me, she will be so well worth the wait. I know of which I speaketh about.

love ya,
Fe

November 20, 2005 11:08 AM  
Blogger Anna P said...

DB, she's out there.
And she's not in college.
She'll love Disney as much as you do, and hate Friends with your same furry.
She'll think your Cubs obsession is adroable (and she'll probably share it with you!).
She'll love the way you leave STUPID voicemail tags.
She won't let you drink Coke (because I'll train her).

She's out there Drew.

November 20, 2005 1:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What a great post...I'm getting married in June and it really made me realize how lucky I am. Thanks Drew...you will find yours soon!

November 21, 2005 10:26 AM  
Blogger mos said...

I'll date you dookie. You're just my type.

November 22, 2005 8:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Drew,
You sound like the dreamy type that I journal about every night. Are you inspired by Elizabeth Elliot's "Passion and Purity" as much as I am? There should be more guys out there like you. No Christian guys think I am pretty enough to date. They all turn me down just because I was home schooled for 15 years. I failed the 4th grade twice. I am passionate about dressing modestly and the Prayer of Jabez. Maybe He can 'expand our territories' together sometime.
Praying for my future husband every night,
Rhonda L.

November 22, 2005 8:18 PM  
Blogger dbrown said...

Everybody's a comedian.

Strange that it was posted only 6 minutes after MOS posted....

Wait till I tell Dr. Cox

November 23, 2005 10:12 AM  
Anonymous Erin said...

Drew, I'm single! :) tehe!

Erin

November 26, 2005 2:59 PM  
Blogger Eve said...

Love it! Love this post! Guess I am a believer that it WILL happen. Or CAN happen but you can't wait around for it because then if you are anything like me you would have wasted 10 years...and that is a lot of time...or even wasting months...somehow if that girl is out there it will come together... have faith and don't know that God is a giver of good gifts...gifts better than we could even dream for ouselves!

PS thanks for the text...i am alive

November 29, 2005 4:45 PM  

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