Tuesday, January 04, 2005

friends with everyone

here we go again with another patented edwardapplebee RANT. prepare to label me a curmudgeon..

am i the only who feels like there has been an unwritten law put into effect that says christians absolutely must like and be friends with other christians? here's an example of a conversation i have far too often...

Friend: 'So and so' is coming too.
Me: Oh.
Friend: You don't like him?
Me: I don't dislike him.
Friend: Why dont you like him?
Me: I just said I dont dislike him.
Friend: What's wrong with him?
Me: Nothing he just isnt someone I'd choose to hang out with.
Friend: ....Do you not want him to come?
Me: No I don't care. I'm just not interested in spending any amount of time with him outside the confines of a group setting.
Friend: He's awesome.
Me: Well I'm glad you think so.
Friend: What don't you like about him?
Me: I don't know!

this usually continues for 3 or 4 hours and ends with someone getting hit in the seat.

where does Jesus say i have to like everyone? did Jesus like everyone? isn't it possible that maybe Jesus thought someone was an asswipe?

isnt loving someone different than liking them? i try my best to love someone i work with and i have to try because i dont like them. i think its very possible to love someone who, in your eyes, is a piece of crap.

i'm not saying i think a lot of people are pieces of crap. in fact, i know the majority arent. but what is the deal with the reaction christians give you when you say you dont like one of our own? why is there a collective gasp when you tell someone that you're not in love with every person who follows God? why do i need to defend myself every time i dont like someone? this doesnt happen with non-christians. it's only in our little world that this problem exists that every person who shares the same faith as you needs to be invited to your house for tea and toast. and God forbid you should tell someone because then it becomes a socially awkward situation where people watch how you and so-and-so interact.

f.y.i. if you're reading this blog, odds are you're not one of the people i'm referring to.

3 Comments:

Blogger Eve said...

I don't know if you could actually think anyone is a piece of crap and really love them at the same time. Now of course you just may not mix with the personality of another and not want to hang with them...then that makes the personality neither good or bad just not compatible. Just like in any recipe you need the right ingredients for a good night...I actually have more problems with Christians than those who are not...

January 04, 2005 10:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can not believe that you said that. I feel the exact same way and struggle with the love and like of human beings. Althoug sometimes difficult, I often try to talk to the people who do like said annoying person to help ease my misunderstanding of the annoyer. Good observation. I totally agree with you on the love- but not like. I practice that on a regular basis. Sometimes within my own family.

January 05, 2005 7:30 AM  
Blogger vbt said...

dude, what the heck!!?!?!?

this ridicule subculture that we find ourselves in makes me so angry at times i don't know what to do with myself... don't feel the need to explain yourself. you're entitled to choose who you hang out with. and if "they" don't like it, well, that's their problem... that's all i have to say about that!

January 05, 2005 8:50 PM  

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